Beautiful curves or lumps and bumps?

How can we guys help our ladies to stop ignoring their beauty?

A friend of mine, Katie Portman, writes a blog called Pouting in Heels that, in case you haven’t immediately twigged, is written for women. I’m a male eavesdropper of her site though, regularly stealing glances at what she’s writing for women. With a wife and two daughters, I’m surrounded by women, so I constantly see what I can learn by listening to things from the female perspective.

Today, as part of her regular ‘Friday Five’ posts, Katie shared five things that women need to stop doing to their bodies. Whether you’re a guy or a girl, it’s worth a read. If you’re a guy, you’ll learn something new; if you’re a girl, you’ll be inspired.

Number three in her post jumped out to me in particular, encouraging women to stop ignoring their beauty. Katie had this to say:

It never fails to amaze me how differently men see our bodies. Where we see lumps and bumps, they see beautiful curves. Where we see imperfections, they see glory. Where we see bits we’d rather hide, they see bits they’d just like to get stuck into. (Oo-er!) You get my drift.

We are so busy criticising our bodies, that we somehow fail to appreciate our beauty. We’re so busy looking for faults that we fail to notice our own wonder and I don’t know about you, but all this makes me feel really, really sad. I mean come on, when is the last time, you looked at your body lovingly?

I can definitely confirm that this is true from a guys perspective! I’m never wondering about any imperfections—real or imagined—when I’m looking at my wife, Rachel. That’s the last thing on my mind—I only seeing intoxicating beauty.

But reading this did raise a few questions about what, if anything, we guys can do to help our ladies stop ignoring their beauty? How can we help them see their beautiful selves rather than focussing on what they perceive to be imperfections?

And, as a Dad, what are the messages that’ll help my girls grow up having a healthy perspective about their bodies? I know that with both my wife and my girls, I won’t be the only voice. But I do want to know how best to be a supportive, positive voice.

I’d love to hear what insights and advice others might have.

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